Improv? Yes. Now that I am extremely experienced in the world of Dementia, I have observed how important the skill of improv is to my interactions with my dad. A bit of background first…my dad not only has Parkinson’s Dementia but also has Aphasia, which is simply that the language center of his brain has been impacted. He can no longer communicate in a way that makes any sense.
For instance, this sentence may come out of his mouth “It was really interesting today. The thistle came out of a grain and was car.” Or, “did you see the biddle up the nickel?” Most of the time, I have no idea what he is trying to say to me. But he clearly thinks he is communicating something and would like a response to either keep the conversation going or to answer his question.
The technique I have used is very much improv at its core, which is based on the concept of “Yes, and?” Most of the time I answer with “really! Tell me more!” And that gets him to continue talking. I feel as if I can get him to continue to talk to me that is a win. He feels as if he is expressing himself and occasionally I can decipher what he actually means, through context, and we can have a meaningful exchange. Some days are better than others. In fact, one day recently, it was as if he had an awakening of sorts. He was making connections he hadn’t in awhile, remembering facts from the previous day, which is next to impossible for him typically and was able to talk on the phone with relatives fairly easily, again not typical. It was short lived, however, as it usually is, and the next day I was back to using my improv skills.
I am so lucky that my father has a pleasant personality, still smiles and laughs at himself and the staff where he lives generally enjoy him. That, unfortunately, isn’t typical with Dementia. I am hopeful that his personality will carry him through this terrible disease and that he will be smiling and laughing until the end